How can the stories we tell ourselves help clients reframe their challenges and reclaim agency in their stories?

Neal Sundberg: Yeah.

Radha Dalal: So I really like statistics, in a weird way. Not like the math portion, but just like, you know, I read on Google, and you might have you might have heard of this as well, and I don't know if it's changed, but we have 90,000 thoughts a day, and 80% are repeated. Right? And so all these thoughts that we're telling ourselves, right, they they're stories, they're they're beliefs. So when we can start to shift even 5% right? Because I think people think it's a lot of work, and it is. But if you just look at 5% of the language, because we repeat a lot of the same words, repeat a lot of the same stories. If we just focus on 5% and really shift it in a way to, like, positive, healthy self talk where we're hyping ourselves up the way we might talk to our best friends, the way we might talk to our sister, our our partners, our our if we're parents, our children. Like Yeah. If we can just shape that in a way that's healthy versus, like, this critic that's constantly attacking us, it can go such a long way. And that's why I like to use a statistic. It's only 5%. Focus on that 5% that the first like, when you wake up in the morning, like, what can I you know, there is such a I love gratitude? I'm a huge fan of gratitude. But can we be also grateful for ourselves, like, our bodies? Like, my body is holding me. I am alive. I have breath. Can we just offer that kindness, that gratitude to ourselves? And notice notice what can unfold, and I think that is how we can start the reframing and the bigger work with the bigger stories. Right? It starts with one thought. It starts with one decision. It starts with one story. And I think the best way to help people is I think we make things so big. Right? But if we just look at a small, tiny, tiny portion, I think it softens the process. Yeah.

Neal Sundberg: I I definitely agree, and it puts it into a place that feels, like, realistic, possible that we can make certain changes. And I think I mean, we're we're in the field, so we're thinking about it, a little bit, but, wanna touch on actually that of, like, taking their our own advice. But, also, yeah, there are probably so many people out there who have never really even given that thought, who are having the that constant repeated those constant repeated negative thoughts, but never really have inspected them or or taken the time to to try and, like, tune in a little bit. So you I mean, you don't know. And even me, someone who is in the field knows that is having I mean, you said 90,000. Gosh. I probably capture maybe 10 to 20 of those in a day, fully. So, yeah, it's just a a lot of opportunity, there for us to work on things, which to that point of taking our own advice, I know you you and I have talked about this idea of, like, coaches needing to take their own advice. And so I'm curious.